Apabila Isteri..

Just want you to know that I'm married. Yeaayyyy. :D

Apabila Isteri.. | Assalaamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakaatuh. Hye guys. I don't know what to write actually. Tetiba teringat,  Bila aku bercerita dengan my guy friends, dorang selalu cakap women are complicated, hard to understand, hard to please, yadaa yadaa. Dorang macam risau je sebab dalam beberapa tahun lagi, dorang pun nak kahwin kan.

So, chill guys. I'm helping you here. :)

By the way. Women are not that hard to understand pun. Ingat tak aku bagi peringatan kat para isteri dulu? Sekarang peringatn untuk para suami pulak. It is just a matter of korang sudi tak buat perkara-perkara yang boleh menyenang hati para isteri nih. Sebab ramai jugak yang rasa macam tak perlu, tak penting, leceh sedangkan isteri lebih kepada rasa ia sangat penting. Gitchew.

Now, lets start.

1. Bila Isteri Tanya

Bila dia tanya, rambut macam mana sesuai untuk dia, siap tunjuk gambar. Korang tak boleh cakap, 'Ikutlah. Mana-mana pun boleh.' It shows you're not interested and it hurts. Go for, 'Yang ni nampak cute. Yang ni nampak matang. And abang suka sayang nampak matang. Cantik'. Gituu.

Actually, bila dia tanya kamu, it means your opinions matter. Kamu suami k. Nothing is more important for us than you. Never consider our questions as 'not important' because they are! At least for us. Bila korang macam tak sudi bagi opinion, we will feel less important and you know it is bad when that happens. :P

2. Bila Isteri Bercerita

We, wives, consider our husband as our best friend! Kalau boleh semua benda nak cerita kat dia. Nothing is not important. It's our nature to be a story teller and it is your nature ,supposedly, to become our listener. Kawan yang mendengar, yang respon, yang never look down on us.

Even berbuka lauk apa pun boleh jadi perkara yang menarik. Mungkin kami nak gitau lauk ni sedap, kami suka. You might think benda bebudak sangat, tapi you should not let us know that. Layan je. Give us your precious  2 minutes, will you? Kejap je pun.

3. Bila Isteri Sedih

Ini paling senang! When we are quiet, not smiling, looking deep through the wall, our eyes macam berkaca, it just means we are sad. Jangan marah or ejek kami nangis. Again, it is our nature. Tears is Allah' gift to soothe our sadness. Maybe kitorang tengah pms ke hape. Tak leh elak!

Bukan sengaja pun. Just come near, hug, and rub our shoulder. Just show that you care. Just show that korang ada di sisi time korang diperlukan. Tahu korang ada pun, dah cukup besar nikmatnya bagi kami. Tak perlu tanya pape sebab nanti kami akan cerita jugak bila rasa nak cerita. Normallah tu. ^^

4. Bila Isteri Manja

Bila kami nak manja, pegang tangan, letak kepala atas bahu, tiup telinga, selak-selak rambut, janganlah tolak, janganlah marah. Women are childish. Embrace the fact. UAI pun cakap, wanita sejenis makhluk pelik yang akan jadi baby sampai dia tua. Bukan selalu pun kan? Cute apa. :P

5. Bila Isteri Minta

As far as I'm concerned, isteri yang sayang suami dia akan berusaha untuk menyenangi dan memahami suami dia. So, bila kami ada benda nak mintak, show effort untuk penuhi. Kalau memang tak boleh, just tell us the reasons. Insya Allah, kami boleh terima. Yang ni macam masalah sikit.

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Wanita makhluk yang detail. Lelaki makhluk yang ringkas. Bila wanita bertanya, dia nak tahu terperinci tapi lelaki suka gitahu benda at the surface je. Bagi aku, bila dah jadi suami isteri, there is no such thing as secret between the two. Isteri ni dia curious lebih pasal suami dia and curiousity lead to suspicion. Elakkan kami tertanya-tanya. Tell us everything.

That is how you maintain a good marriage. :)

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I love you, husband. More than you will ever know.

Macam tak cukup je 5 benda nih. Nanti mungkin aku sambung untuk para lelaki lebih mudah nak faham wanita dia. Maybe, isteri dia. Perkahwinan is a process. There is always something new to learn every day. In fact, every single second. Hehehe

ps- thank you Allah for your gift and blessing in the form of my husband and my new family. i am so the luckiest girl on Earth having them in my life. :)

Toodles. Wassalaam. :D